I recently got inspired because of a few major changes in my life, and I thought now might be a good time to get this message out. See, there are many times in our lives when we are forced to let go of what we know and learn to just trust.
I feel so strongly about the belief that we are all on one field in the universe—that we are constantly putting out and receiving things all the time. There was something I put out—something that I wanted—and waited to receive it in return. But it took a long time, and eventually I forgot about it. I shut that part out and focused on other things.
When I actually received it, it came in a way that looked like a challenge. It was what I wanted, but I didn’t see that immediately. I saw it as something difficult; something I’d need to overcome. And that happens, more than we realize. Sometimes the things we come to see as challenges are actually opportunities, desires answered in disguise. We want them, but we don’t realize that because they come to us at the edge of our comfort zone. They come to us just as we’re about to step into our next phase, standing right on the edge of the precipice, forced to take that leap.
What we want always comes at a time when we have to let go.
From the perception of loss, change is painful. Something either leaves, is let go of, or breaks down. And the space they leave behind can make us feel empty.
But what we usually don’t realize is that that break down of parts is necessary. Space must be created in order to make room for what you actually want. A lot of the time, when I talk to people, they are in either of two situations; they’re in a good place, they’re doing great, they want more, OR they feel trapped, they’re constantly in the dark, and they don’t know what to do. For the people who want more, I try to get them to realize that there will always be that letting go. That point of moving on.
For those who don’t know what to do, it’s the same. I try to get them to understand that they need to let go. They need to realize that in that moment, when something shows up that forces them to the edge of their comfort zone, that precipice where they’re forced to either take the leap or fall—that’s the moment when they need to learn to just trust.
Learning To Trust
We’re always told to keep fighting, but when we’re called to change, that option doesn’t apply. You need to surrender, let go, know what you’ve called in, and stay utterly focused on what you want. Because a lot of times, that thing that drops—whether it’s a relationship that’s not working out, a bank account that doesn’t have the digits you want, your business isn’t going the right way—whatever it is, it has to. It has to drop in order for you to move on.
If we continue to look at what we lost through the lens of loss and lacking, we miss the opportunity we’re given from the space that they leave behind. When something drops, shatters, and breaks away, the space that it leaves behind means that there is new room in your life for something better. And this has been massively apparent to me recently.
I wanted to pose the question to you: are you willing to let go, surrender, release things in your life? We so often want to create something new, but we are rarely so willing to let go of the old, and that’s just not how that works! How can you have room in your life for something new—something better—when the old and outdated are still cluttering your space? How can you wholly accept new opportunities when you refuse to let go of old flaws?
Are you willing to surrender?
Be grateful for all the things you’ve got, and then be grateful for things that are showing up that might look like challenges because they’re opening up to what you want. Stay focused—pinpoint focus—on that which you’re calling in. You must talk in specificity of exactly what it is you want and then allow it to show up. Notice that, even if you’re calling something in, sometimes the way to get there might look backwards. It might look like you’re going the wrong way, but it is so naïve of us to think that, based on our past experiences, we could know for certain the fastest way to create this new experience.
Surrender. Let things show up. I know it is tough to do so because we have responsibilities—I get it. But here is my message for you: let there be space. Let things fall down. Let things break apart, and stay focused on what you want. You have no idea why that needs to break apart, but if you stay with that intention, the right thing will show up.
Recently, I’ve just decided that I want to be working one-on-one with people again. I want to be helping. I want to be out there. I want to be in the trenches. And those of you that have reached out to me, I’m excited to start with you. We’ve still got space! I’m excited to just help you get to that next level because what I know for sure is the external shows up after the internal.